Mommy Stress
Cool site for moms to vent, brag, rejoice and sympathize over whatever joys and trials they are experiencing in motherhood today. Whether you're a pregnant mom for the first time, or a grandmother with 12 grandkids, this site will have something for you. I plan to post articles, pictures, and amazing yet little know factoids about being a mommy. I hope you'll follow me as we all learn a lot together!
Thursday, May 17, 2018
Like that Cheesey Brittney Spears Song- Oops She did it again!
My daughter has been selected to once again go to the United Kingdom and play on a select Under 15 team against some premier academy teams in Chelsea, Manchester, etc. This time she'll be traveling with Power Soccer. Last year it was Next Gen so the schedule and the sight seeing will be different. I think she gets to go to Wembley this time.
I'm not going with her this time, so she'll be chaperoned by my other parent friends who are going so I'm not too worried (says I while drinking a glass of wine and biting my fingernails while I type this.) Seriously though, it is too good to have her pass it up so as parents sometimes we have to cut the apron strings.
Not that I ever wear aprons- I flipping hate to cook.
But back to the point. At least this time, she's traveling when it shouldn't be so cold. They are going August 5th through the 12th. So keep her (and her mom of course- that'd be me- drunk and fingers bitten to the nub) in your prayers and I'll post pics when I can!
Tuesday, March 21, 2017
Gotta brag a bit here. Hey, it's a mommy blog so every now and then I get to post my own proud news.
My daughter is going to play in LONDON!
But first things first......
In 2015, my 11-year old daughter Peyton raised money for the
Shriner's Hospital for Children. She put
her own money with it and we were able to give $800 dollars to help
children fighting bone disease, spinal
injuries, burns and other diseases that require prosthesis and care at the
Tampa Florida hospital. We toured the hospital and she saw how her dollars
helped create new prosthesis to become legs, arms and hands for children.
In 2016, she decided to sponsor a Compassion International
Child and we chose a 6 year old girl from Thailand. We continue to sponsor her
15 months later and consider her one of our family members. For Peyton, the choice to choose her was
easy. Our sponsor child had been born with polio and needed braces just to
stand.
See, my daughter is an athlete. But when she was born, her
leg was bent and twisted at such an angle we didn't know if she'd ever walk,
much less play soccer. At six months of age, we discovered she also had
torticollis, stemming from being stuck under my rib cage in utero, making one
side of her neck muscles much shorter than the other side. This caused her head
to always stay tilted onto one shoulder.
But
there's good news!
Because of prayer, painful
months of therapy and fine doctors at great Florida hospitals, Peyton was able
to recover completely and now plays soccer competitively. Her birthday was March
1 and she turned 13. Peyton been selected to play on a select squad of 18 girls from
America to travel to the United Kingdom to train and play with other highly
skilled athletes who are part of Next Gen USA.
Next Gen USA's mission is
to inspire, educate and empower
promising young players to reach their full potential on and off the field.
I want this for my daughter. I want her to embrace the
opportunity to play in the UK.
But I also want her to inspire other children; children who may have suffered from birth defects,
burns or other traumatic injuries.
All children should be able to live their lives to their highest
potential. By providing monetary support for artificial limbs and medical
treatment, we can all help more children live life to their fullest.
So here's what we are
trying to do.
I need to raise money so Peyton can go on this trip. It is
expensive to travel from Florida to London to play games over there. Just
getting her passport cost $180. The trip itself is a deal at $2300 dollars plus airfare, so we're talking about $4500
for 9 days... but that includes hotels, games, meals, transportation and
professional coaching and training. But $4500 is a lot of money for us to come
up with in such a short time.
But, like most parents, I don't want her to lose the opportunity to go
on a once-in- a-lifetime experience because
we don't have the money.
So I said yes...
But only if she could help raise the funds. So she's babysitting,
dog-walking, cleaning bathrooms, and washing cars...whatever she can do to earn
cash.
But the deal is, she has to give half
of whatever she earns to a charity. She again chose the children at the Shriner's
Hospital.
So
we are asking selfishly for donations.
Peyton's Congratulatory letter is attached to show this is the real
deal. The trip is scheduled for April 8th- 15th and we hope to raise at least $9000.
While this sounds like a lot, we want to give half to the Shriner's hospital,
only keeping $4,500 to pay for airfare, hotels and meals. Everything in excess ,
and that means every dollar over $4500 will be donated to the Shriner's
Hospital for Children in Tampa and as before, we'll show a video of Peyton
taking the check personally to the hospital and handing to their administrator.
By encouraging my daughter to follow her dreams and not
taking her gifts or health for granted, I feel all of us can be a part of the
bigger picture. Showing compassion and love to all.
Thank you for considering my daughter and the Shriner's Children's
hospital as a worthy cause to support.
My Daughter, Peyton
Fitzherbert when she was born. You can see her foot and leg is twisted at an
unnatural angle. Born March 1, 2004
This is me holding
Peyton wearing one of her neck braces as she strengthens her neck muscles which
were abnormal at birth due to Torticollis.
Peyton at 6 years of age:
Peyton is always striving to be the best. Training with
world cup players, going to the U.S women's national games, and daily training
and practices.
Peyton with some of the Next Gen USA players
meeting the U19 Women's national team.(Second from bottom left).
Help her get back to helping others like she did here in these pictures when we went to Children's Shriner's hospital to donate money. We took a tour of the facility where they make new limbs and it was an incredible experience.
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If you want to see the gofund me page- it's here: https://www.gofundme.com/London-to-Limbs
Wednesday, June 22, 2016
Monday, February 29, 2016
Escape Bullet Holes With Sunscreen
Escape "Bullet
Holes" with Sunscreen!
Babysitting
was the best form of birth control for me. Once I realized the amount of time,
work and often disgusting chores that went with caring for a baby, I quickly
understood the significance of making sure I was not having one...until I was totally
ready.
Fast
forward 35 years and I have two tweens who call me mom. They are my world and
like all loving moms, I want to protect them from future harm.
Hence
the reason for these graphic pictures.
I have
skin cancer.
But the
damage was done years earlier, when as a child I refused sunscreen. When as a
teen, I lathered on baby oil and life-guarded unprotected throughout college.
When after college, I still worshiped the idea of looking tan and bought a
tanning bed. (If only I'd been born in Brazil or Australia, I couldn't have
done that because those countries have banned indoor tanning altogether.[1]")
Add all
those years up and then move to Key West Florida and you've got the perfect
recipe for more sun, more damage and ultimately...the Big C.
I now
wear sunscreen.
Thankfully with skin, it's not one of those "a day late
and a dollar short" type of scenarios.
If you protect yourself, you can
keep yourself from getting more skin damage. Our skin is our body's
largest organ, but it is usually the one that most people ignore. And "each
year there are more new cases of skin cancer than the combined incidence of cancers of the breast, prostate, lung
and colon."[2]
1 in 5 Americans will develop skin cancer in the course of a
lifetime![3]
I have
had numerous instances of non-melanoma skin cancers through the years and have
had things cauterized, scraped, and literally burned from within by using
Imiquimod cream to kill basal cells by turning my flesh into seeping painful
patches that resembled 3rd degree burns on my entire chest area.
And
still, I thought no big deal.
I continued tanning in a bikini, walking around
without long sleeves, or hats, or 50+ UV protection... even though I lived in
Florida where the total sunny days average 259 each year.[4]
But that
view changed last week when I had MOHS© surgery on my face, And it's not over,
because I have to go back in 4 days for it to be done to my right leg for an
even larger area.
Let's
just say, I wised up.
I want
to live a long full life for my children and husband. I want to be alive more
than I want to be fashionable. So if that means wearing UV protected clothing,
a big goofy hat and zinc across my nose, so be it.
My kids
used to argue when I pulled out the zinc stick. But now they realize how
damaging those beautiful sunshine rays are to their mommy. Their perspective
has changed and now they remind me to be safe. "Mom, make sure you wear
your sunscreen. Don't forget your hat mom." Or they see clothing in the
surf shop and say- "That would look good on you Mom," instead of before
when they'd been mortified to suggest a bright colored cover-up.
Love is in the eye of the beholder. And when I
see those freckles popping up across the nose of my blonde-haired blue eyed
child, I no longer think, "how cute." Instead, I cringe with fear for
her.
Then I squeeze an extra portion
of sunscreen on her face.
She used to fight me off, now she closes her
eyes, braces herself and smiles...not because she likes it, but because she
gets it. She understands. Much like I did the first time I babysat.
So yes,
the selfie I took of myself (when the doctor left the room and didn't see me)
wasn't for my own personal gross perspective.
But it
was for my children.
And when
I get the stitches out Thursday and endure the scalpel again for my leg, I'll
probably take a few more shots just for good measure.
I'm just
thankful for the fact I have scars to show.
Because
there are no better words to hear than "We got it all."
If my
post, my gross pictures and my plea can help anyone else out there, then I've
done my good deed for the day.
Please wear sunscreen and UV protection and
slather it liberally on your children.
Because
one person dies of melanoma every 57 minutes[5].
I don't
want it to be you!
-Tammy Fitzherbert
UPDATE
UPDATE
A lot of people have asked how it has turned out so I'm including some pics of the head and the leg. I'm pretty happy with the results so far and the minimal scarring on my forehead. My stitches haven't been taken out of my leg yet so that will have to go in a later post.
I wore a compression bandage for 48 hours.
It was hard hiding that big bandage but I had my favorite Carolina Panthers hat to help.
Obviously I had to keep it covered well when we went out in the beautiful sunshine:
This is me (without makeup as usual) 13 days later. Definite improvement!
Here's the leg stitched up: ( They were too fast for me to get a pic of the cancerous area they removed before they began stitching me up. But once again I was relieved to hear the words, They Got It ALL!
Until my next update, Keep wearing your sunscreen and enjoy every minute the Good Lord has given you!
Tammy "Frankenstein" Fitzherbert
I wore a compression bandage for 48 hours.
It was hard hiding that big bandage but I had my favorite Carolina Panthers hat to help.
Panthers cover |
This is after I took off bandage 48 hours later. Still had the brown tape over sutures and some bruising. |
Obviously I had to keep it covered well when we went out in the beautiful sunshine:
one week later- about to get sutures out. |
Stitches out. |
Here's the leg stitched up: ( They were too fast for me to get a pic of the cancerous area they removed before they began stitching me up. But once again I was relieved to hear the words, They Got It ALL!
Until my next update, Keep wearing your sunscreen and enjoy every minute the Good Lord has given you!
Tammy "Frankenstein" Fitzherbert
[1]
Indoor Tanning Is Not
Safe. Indoor Tanning Policies. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention,http://www.cdc.gov/cancer/skin/basic_info/indoor_tanning.htm . Last updated January
5, 2016, last reviewed January 22, 2016.
[2]
Rogers HW, Weinstock
MA, Feldman SR, Coldiron BM. Incidence estimate of nonmelanoma skin cancer
(keratinocyte carcinomas) in the US population, 2012. JAMA Dermatol 2015;
151(10):1081-1086.
[5]
American Cancer
Society. Cancer Facts & Figures 2015. http://www.cancer.org/acs/groups/content/@editorial/documents/document/acspc-044552.pdf. Accessed January 9,
2015.
Tuesday, December 15, 2015
What do I want for Christmas?
For all the people who asked what I'd like for
Christmas this year:
I'd like my Country back!
I'm sick of watching president Obama (yes I used a
little "P" purposely for President). If he wants my respect, he'll
have to earn it. But he's too busy
making the USA look like a bunch of wimps. When Paris was attacked, he could
have strapped on a set and helped send a message. But he didn't.
He calls it Foreign Policy- I call it posing.
Why go
to all those countries and schmooze? Why go to expensive dinners and balls so
that Michelle can put on another gown and talk about hunger ? It's
preposterous.
Why have all those meetings of "diplomatic importance"?
Pick up the damn phone, say what you need to say, cut out the caterers, the
ballroom dancing, the tuxes and the parties. As far as I’m concerned, we don’t
need to be over there trying to tell them what they’re doing right or wrong
anyway. Let them figure it out. It’s certainly not as if we’ve got our national
debt, homelessness and war issues all resolved.
But according to Obama, Isis is under control. So is
ISIL. Pick a letter... any letter Vanna... call it what you want- it's a
Radical Muslim group who hates us and no matter what you call it, they are not
under control!
Trim our welfare- Keep it simple. If you want to
receive money for food and paid health insurance,
then you should get a job. If you are able to work, then you should. If you are
able to father a few kids, you probably are healthy enough to do other things.
If you are a woman able to endure the pain of labor, you are probably able to
labor in other ways as well.
Why should my taxes pay for your babies? Why
should I have to work so they send you a monthly check when you sit on your
butt, eating welfare cheese, milk, eggs and beef doing drugs and living in free
housing while I can’t afford to buy a bottle of boxed wine to celebrate my kids
graduation from high school? But I have to skimp because I need the money to
pay for college tuition. I skimp so I won't be late on my mortgage payments.
But you get a free smart phone, free housing,
free insurance, and even a nice little credit card to buy your groceries with
that replaces those old welfare food stamps....because we wouldn't want to
stigmatize you in line at the grocery store. This way no one can tell it's a
welfare card because it looks exactly like the high-interest card I have to pay
for to get me by from month to month so I can make peanut butter and jelly
sandwiches while you eat steak!
Sorry if I sound a little pissed, but maybe we all
need to finally voice our concerns.
Many of us work in jobs that require us to take drug
tests to keep our jobs. My brother is in the service. Service members take
random drug tests to make sure our military aren’t under the influence.
If they don’t
pass, guess, what? They lose their job and all the nice government benefits
that go with it. It’s not an
infringement of his rights. It’s a job requirement. If you don’t like the
rules, don’t play the game.
I feel the same way for welfare recipients. You should
have to pass a drug test if you want to continue receiving benefits. Hell, ramp
it up a bit and throw in a pregnancy test too for all those unwed moms looking
for more in their checks each month because they’ve got another mouth to feed.
The rules would be simple. Pee in a cup, you’re clean, pick up a check.
You’re not- oh well- try again next
month!
So sorry, but I don’t feel like paying for your drug
habit or your promiscuity.
Others have
had this idea too; I can’t take credit, but the government hasn't passed it
because they say it’s too expensive to test, or too much of a hardship for people to go to the place to
test.
Some say it’s not constitutional.
To all those people I say "Bull
Shit!"
It wouldn’t
be too expensive because think of all the people we’d weed out who are
currently getting paid to do nothing every month.
If it’s too hard for someone
to go to an office once a month to pick up a check, ask yourself why?
Do you
get out of bed every work day and find a way to get to your place of employment
to get a check?
Is it really too much to ask someone to make it there one time
in 30 days drug-free to get free money? If so, then I rest my case- They don’t
deserve it! And that’s just how I feel about welfare checks. Let me now get on to housing.
When half of
this country is in foreclosure or one month’s mortgage away from it, how can we
keep allowing people who don’t even work to live for free on our tax dollars?
Don’t worry, I’m not suggesting we should kick them to the curb. Homelessness
is enough of a problem in this country- but there should be guidelines as to
who gets to live in “free housing” and who doesn’t.
Ask yourself this- when people have worked 20 plus
years and paid taxes for all that time, and suddenly find themselves out of a
job because the economy is in such a mess that cutbacks have been made,
shouldn't they get a break?
When Mr. Employee
of the year is let go to save overhead, should he be the one thrown out of his
home because he doesn’t now have regular income to make a house payment on the
home he’s owned for 20 years and has made regular payments on and who planned
on owning it free and clear in the next 10?
Or should the crack-head down the street with 3
unmarried girlfriends and their babies living with him and his drug buddies be
the one without a roof over his head? But they won't be kicked out. No, it will
be Mr. Responsible Taxpayer who has his home foreclosed on and sold out from
under him.
If you want to fix homelessness issues, stop providing homes to the
ones who don't deserve it and let the ones who do keep theirs.
Now I realize that not every person living in free
housing or “subsidized housing as it is called” have drug habits or tons of illegitimate
children. Some may just be down on their luck and struggling to get back into
the workplace- and for those of you- Congratulations. I commend you on looking
for employment and trying to get out.
But for the majority who are simply sponging off the
system, I think there should be guidelines met to continue to live in free
housing.
Oh sure, I realize there are “guidelines" now,
a checklist that you check off if you don't make very much income. Which just
makes you want to hide what you do make because if you go over that amount, you
can’t live in free homes. But really, does that system make sense?
Think about it.
Right now, our system is set up so that if you don’t show enough
income, guess what- you qualify to live in our country in a free home with free
food. And if you have kids, even if you yourself are an illegal, we’ll take
care of them too…but only so long as you don’t work too hard or make too much
money- cause if you prove you’re a hard working contributing member of society-
then I’m sorry, but we’ll have to cut you off and figure that you can now
sufficiently care for your own.
Huh? Does
that make sense?
Of course not, but yet that’s what we’re doing in
America.
No wonder everybody wants to come here to the land
of the free. They get everything for free! And Obama keeps opening the doors
wider and wider.
Our country is not supposed to be a socialist
country....at least it wasn't founded that way.
We are supposed to work for what we earn.
I don't work so that the guy
down the street can be lazy and collect welfare and live in free housing, I
work because I have to survive. He's in better health than me.
Why should he
get food and a home when our proud Veterans who lost life and limb protecting
our rights have no homes or benefits because our government keeps saying we
can't afford it?
Why should my parents and grandparents worry about social
security benefits when they paid out of their paychecks week after week to be
able to collect when they could no longer work?
Why do our congressman, senate
reps and ex Presidents get paid after their short term in office, but they say our budget can't afford to pay the people
who worked all their lives putting their hard-earned dollars into the same
system paying their retirement?
They say our government can't afford to pay for
all these people who now need social security, yet they aren't cutting their
government annual salary or benefits.
But though they claim our US Govt. is out
of money, they pave the way to allow more and more immigrants to come into our
country.
Invite them if they come to work. Invite them if
they like Americans.
But
for God's sake, don't go out of your way to roll out the red carpet if they
want to burn our flags, kill our people and chastise my cross.
And don't act
like we don't know who they are. They tell us quite clearly.
Obama may not
care, but I do. If they don't like what the USA stands for (or at least what it
used to represent), then stay the hell out.
But if you still insist on letting some of them in,
then do so with explicit screening.
Make them take the Citizenship test and
pass it to stay here.
If they have a Work Visa, make sure you follow them while
they are in this country, so they leave when the Visa expires, if they don't
become citizens.
If they become a citizen and actually contribute
through taxes, effort and patriotism to our government and nation, I will
proudly and lovingly welcome them to my country.
But don't expect me to welcome them if they don't
plan on working.
I can't afford to send my kids to college, yet our
Country pays for their kids to go to college along with housing, food, and
medical expenses while mine get nothing.
They get scholarships while I get student loan debt.
And mine were born here!
I work. I pay taxes. I contribute. But I'm sick of
doing it all for the common good of people who quite commonly just come over
here and get everything for free!
Shouldn’t it be the other way around?
If you want to have a roof over your head- help
build it. You want the community to pay for your comfort- great-I’m all for it-
join the community and pick up a hammer and help fix up the projects you call
home.
If you want a home, you should
have to do what every other homeowner and renter does- make payments, make
repairs and take care of your property.
If you can’t do it with monetary
payments- you can do it with your time and effort. If you are able to sit and
watch TV, you should be able to volunteer and help teach kids to read or do
homework or pass on some other life skill that doesn't include making pipe
bombs.
If you can't read or write- well take a class.
But please- learn English.
It's America. We speak English. We write English.
We
do not travel to other countries and expect them to speak English in Spain,
Italy or Germany. We expect them to speak their native language of Spanish,
Italian or German.
Comprende?...Kapeesh? ...Verstehen? Understand?
I could go on and on, but I think you get the point.
I wish we'd take our country back, put God first
again, and impeach Obama.
That my friends is what I want for Christmas this
year.
My favorite Bible verse is Jeremiah 29:11. -"I
know the plans I have for you," declares the Lord, "Plans to prosper
you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."
I pray that those plans are for our country as well
because it looks pretty bleak right now and I hope for a future for us all!
Feel free to share if you think that would be the
best Christmas gift ever!
Sincerely,
Tammy Fitzherbert
Wednesday, March 25, 2015
Seriously- You Want it Now?
This day started out awful. An epic Bad Mommy day!
I was up all night
comforting our colicky baby who finally fell asleep around 3am. After catching
a mere 3 hours of sleep, I woke up to find our 5 year old had a fever and upset
stomach. I put her back to bed saying no "Kindergarten today", but
not before rushing her to the toilet where she "almost" made it.
By "almost" I mean, she got to the bathroom, but
projectile vomited on the side of my head before we turned her mouth toward the
bowl. I don't know about you, but 9 times out of 10, if they get sick and I
catch a whiff of it, I get sick too. This was no exception. Especially since it
was now clinging to my left ear and face.
And did I mention we
ate chili with beans for dinner? Yeah, I
can't make this stuff up people. It was bad.
After cleaning up the
bathroom, I headed upstairs to jump in the shower and rinse off the God-awful
stink emanating from my hair and clothes. I also wanted to brush my teeth.
I hadn't made it two steps before I met eyes with my husband
coming out of the bedroom. He saw me tossing my clothes in the laundry basket
standing there "au natural."
And I kid you not- he thought to himself- "looks like as good a
time as any."
Now here I am, buck-naked, haven't yet showered, haven't
shaved in three days, haven't brushed my teeth yet, have throw up in my hair
and bags under my eyes...and did I mention I have throw up in my hair?
What is it about Men when it comes to morning sex? Did he
even look at me? Do I simply function as a vending machine with an "Insert Here" sign that only he can
see that must hang invisibly below my waistline.
As he walked over to me, I gave him the "look."
You know the one, the
one that screams, "Are you kidding me- You want sex now?"
We've all cast that
glare. It clearly says, "Not in a milliion friggin years am I even the
slightest bit turned on right now."
And you know what? He
didn't even notice.
He strolls on over like he's Brad Pitt or something, waving
his pride and joy (well, not really waving it- but bouncing it a bit) and gives me an eyebrow
raise that implies, " I got this."
I can't make this stuff up.
I swear he must have heard Marvin Gaye in his mind because
he was humming "Let's get it
on" as he swaggered over to me.
When he got close enough to actually kiss me, I turned my
head (the side with throw-up still caked in my hair) to the left so he could
see it.
He did not.
But he did smell it.
And do you know what he said to me?
"Whoa babe... I love you, but I got to tell you, after
we make love, you really might want to think about a shower." He then
clicked his tongue, like he was doing me a favor and said, " But don't
worry... you still do it for me."
That was his way of complimenting me... I think.
Did I seriously marry someone that gross? Did I reproduce
with someone who can't see the puke stuck to the side of my ear?
I flicked a bean at him as I looked at him disgustedly.
"Really? You want it now? Do you not see this? Pey was
sick, I'm wearing it. That's what you smell."
He wrinkled his nose a bit and said- "Oh I thought it
was an earring."
"AGGHHHHH, How could you even think I'd lay down on clean
sheets like this? Gross! Seriously- I can't believe you! Get out of my way and
go to work!" I screamed.
He finally had the decency to look sheepish and
"Mr.Happy" stopped bouncing around.
I jumped in the shower and he left for work.
It is now 4pm and I've received 3 apology texts from him and
he called his mom to come over tonight to watch the kids so he can take me out
to dinner.
I guess it's not all bad.
I even ordered myself
a new pair of yellow panties. They sell them online and it has a cute little
arrow that points downward and reads, "INSERT HERE." Now there's your
sign.
If I'm wearing those, then clearly I'm in the mood.
Otherwise- please check for other signs that you better back off!
Friday, February 27, 2015
Finding the Best Handyman is Essential
Okay ladies, I am going to vent a bit. I have a wonderful husband. He is by far, the best pick of the litter and I scored big time when I won him. He's a super loving Father and great provider. BUT....
He can't hang a flipping picture to save his life.
Now, let me preface this with a bit of background. I'm a southern girl- and like most true southern chicks, we grow up learning a few essentials. Like how to drive a stick, how to bait a hook and how to watch a football game. We may not all know how to change a tire; but we know how find a man who does. My man knows how too- but it involved a ride to the local Tire Store if you get my drift.
When a gal wants a curtain rod hung or a mirror placed on the wall, it shouldn't take an act of God to do it. Mine pulls out the level, the drill, the wall anchor, the stud-finder, the friggin screw and then ....yeah- he hangs it too high. (I'm five foot tall and he hung the mirror so high that I can't even see the top of my scalp in it- and the poor kids don't have a chance.) I told him he'd need to lower it and he said, fine, but that it was hung high to cover the 3 holes he'd initially tried to hang it from.
Obviously I've got plenty of spack in this house because I've constantly heard the story line, "the stupid anchor broke." It's never operator error! No of course not- it's always dysfunctional equipment we're working with.
(Look at the first picture and you'll see how high he hung the mirror- BTW- I made that with some rope from Home Depot, wine-corks, and driftwood I'd picked up with shells on the beach.) This is the after picture. The next one shows the ugly tile and space before I worked on it.
Takes me back to the time he had to put together a Barbie Dreamhouse. The instructions were wrong, the parts were missing, the pieces didn't fit...blah blah blah. He left for an hour because he was so frustrated so I put it together. Nothing was broke or missing, but his spatial capacity to figure it out. I guess if I wanted an engineer I should have married one- but no, alas, I chose a GOLFER.
I've begun to wonder if there are other Golfer-widows out there with the same problem. Maybe it's a golf dysfunction disorder. We could label it GDD, and if they have it- they can not be handy-man material. They could come with a warning so we know what we're getting before we buy the package.
When I met my husband, he came with two things in his possession - a recliner and golf bag.
I had tools. Lots of them. I love my circular saw, my drill, my screwdrivers and sanders. I have a wicked sick relationship with my reciprocating saw as demo work is therapeutic to me. My husband doesn't understand my need to fix things up and make them into other things. I love finding trash and turning it into usable things. I've even written a book on it teaching others how to do it.
He doesn't understand why when he leaves in the morning from a bathroom that was ugly but functioning, he returns home to find the bath/shower taken down to the studs and I'm covered in dirty installation. (See pictures for proof.) Just an FYI- it takes only about 30 minutes for one small woman and a power tool to remove an enclosed glass shower.
I had to twist his arm to buy a "fixer-Upper" under the pretense that I would do all the work and pay someone else for what I couldn't do myself. So far, I ( he'll say we) have painted every room in the 2600 sq.ft house. I've also painted some of the outside. I took out and replaced the front door with a hurricane impact door. I've hung interior shutter doors that I fabricated to frame in a dining room wall for privacy. I've taken down every light fixture and ceiling fan in this 80's style house and replaced with new fans and lights. I've patched holes, sanded walls and even put in a new sink vanity in the laundry bath. I laid laminate floor in my office, removed every bit of carpet in this house, and begun sanding and painting the staircase. I've stripped wallpaper, removed tile from the walls and then put up new wallpaper that looks like rustic wood paneling. I've installed beadboard and chair-rails as well as baseboards. I've removed the dock lift beams with the help of my brother and a friend and those have now been built by a welder. I do not weld!We must admit our limitations!
Now I'm on the master bath. I (with the help of a friend) took down a huge 9 foot mirror and got it down the stairs and to the trash. I removed the enclosed ugly silver-chromed glass shower enclosure, and the tile from the wall. I took it to the studs. He was not amused!
But I knew that wall had mold behind it and I had to remove the installation and drywall because they had not used the right kind.
Here's a funny true story- I went and bought the drywall with the gypsum coating b/c that's the kind you need for high-moisture areas to prevent mold. So it is up in my bath, leaning against the wall till I can hang it and my husband says-"Oh so that's the color you've decided on...we're going with green?"
I kid you not- the only greens he recognizes are those with a little white ball on it. But I love him.
So that brings me to the topic- at some point, you really do need a handyman. I was finding it difficult to maneuver the drywall by myself. Trying to handle it and cut and measure it, I ended up breaking it. So I broke down and called a local guy who offered handyman services.
It's been life-changing my friends. In 40 minutes, it was hung. (The drywall that is.) After he left, I taped the seams with drywall tape and mudded it and now its dry and ready for sanding. I may even try my luck with some fancy tile. And I'm not scared....well maybe a little.
So now I know I can call this guy for the projects that I don't want to ask my husband to do. Next up will be hanging barn doors with the hardware.
I think I've found the answer to a peaceful marriage.
Hmmm...I wonder if my handyman can put together Barbie townhouses.Christmas Eves around my house are always a nightmare.
I paid a guy one Christmas to put together a 15 foot trampoline. No kidding, I was scared if my husband did it, the kids would jump up but not come down. It was the best money I ever spent.
I'll post more pictures as my projects get completed. In the meantime, remember- every man is not handy- but if you're handy- you can find a man. Ha Ha. I just made that up. I'm killing it today!. Gotta get back to the tile.
-Tammy
Till next time.
He can't hang a flipping picture to save his life.
Now, let me preface this with a bit of background. I'm a southern girl- and like most true southern chicks, we grow up learning a few essentials. Like how to drive a stick, how to bait a hook and how to watch a football game. We may not all know how to change a tire; but we know how find a man who does. My man knows how too- but it involved a ride to the local Tire Store if you get my drift.
When a gal wants a curtain rod hung or a mirror placed on the wall, it shouldn't take an act of God to do it. Mine pulls out the level, the drill, the wall anchor, the stud-finder, the friggin screw and then ....yeah- he hangs it too high. (I'm five foot tall and he hung the mirror so high that I can't even see the top of my scalp in it- and the poor kids don't have a chance.) I told him he'd need to lower it and he said, fine, but that it was hung high to cover the 3 holes he'd initially tried to hang it from.
Obviously I've got plenty of spack in this house because I've constantly heard the story line, "the stupid anchor broke." It's never operator error! No of course not- it's always dysfunctional equipment we're working with.
(Look at the first picture and you'll see how high he hung the mirror- BTW- I made that with some rope from Home Depot, wine-corks, and driftwood I'd picked up with shells on the beach.) This is the after picture. The next one shows the ugly tile and space before I worked on it.
Takes me back to the time he had to put together a Barbie Dreamhouse. The instructions were wrong, the parts were missing, the pieces didn't fit...blah blah blah. He left for an hour because he was so frustrated so I put it together. Nothing was broke or missing, but his spatial capacity to figure it out. I guess if I wanted an engineer I should have married one- but no, alas, I chose a GOLFER.
I've begun to wonder if there are other Golfer-widows out there with the same problem. Maybe it's a golf dysfunction disorder. We could label it GDD, and if they have it- they can not be handy-man material. They could come with a warning so we know what we're getting before we buy the package.
When I met my husband, he came with two things in his possession - a recliner and golf bag.
I had tools. Lots of them. I love my circular saw, my drill, my screwdrivers and sanders. I have a wicked sick relationship with my reciprocating saw as demo work is therapeutic to me. My husband doesn't understand my need to fix things up and make them into other things. I love finding trash and turning it into usable things. I've even written a book on it teaching others how to do it.
He doesn't understand why when he leaves in the morning from a bathroom that was ugly but functioning, he returns home to find the bath/shower taken down to the studs and I'm covered in dirty installation. (See pictures for proof.) Just an FYI- it takes only about 30 minutes for one small woman and a power tool to remove an enclosed glass shower.
I had to twist his arm to buy a "fixer-Upper" under the pretense that I would do all the work and pay someone else for what I couldn't do myself. So far, I ( he'll say we) have painted every room in the 2600 sq.ft house. I've also painted some of the outside. I took out and replaced the front door with a hurricane impact door. I've hung interior shutter doors that I fabricated to frame in a dining room wall for privacy. I've taken down every light fixture and ceiling fan in this 80's style house and replaced with new fans and lights. I've patched holes, sanded walls and even put in a new sink vanity in the laundry bath. I laid laminate floor in my office, removed every bit of carpet in this house, and begun sanding and painting the staircase. I've stripped wallpaper, removed tile from the walls and then put up new wallpaper that looks like rustic wood paneling. I've installed beadboard and chair-rails as well as baseboards. I've removed the dock lift beams with the help of my brother and a friend and those have now been built by a welder. I do not weld!We must admit our limitations!
Now I'm on the master bath. I (with the help of a friend) took down a huge 9 foot mirror and got it down the stairs and to the trash. I removed the enclosed ugly silver-chromed glass shower enclosure, and the tile from the wall. I took it to the studs. He was not amused!
But I knew that wall had mold behind it and I had to remove the installation and drywall because they had not used the right kind.
Here's a funny true story- I went and bought the drywall with the gypsum coating b/c that's the kind you need for high-moisture areas to prevent mold. So it is up in my bath, leaning against the wall till I can hang it and my husband says-"Oh so that's the color you've decided on...we're going with green?"
I kid you not- the only greens he recognizes are those with a little white ball on it. But I love him.
So that brings me to the topic- at some point, you really do need a handyman. I was finding it difficult to maneuver the drywall by myself. Trying to handle it and cut and measure it, I ended up breaking it. So I broke down and called a local guy who offered handyman services.
It's been life-changing my friends. In 40 minutes, it was hung. (The drywall that is.) After he left, I taped the seams with drywall tape and mudded it and now its dry and ready for sanding. I may even try my luck with some fancy tile. And I'm not scared....well maybe a little.
So now I know I can call this guy for the projects that I don't want to ask my husband to do. Next up will be hanging barn doors with the hardware.
I think I've found the answer to a peaceful marriage.
Hmmm...I wonder if my handyman can put together Barbie townhouses.Christmas Eves around my house are always a nightmare.
I paid a guy one Christmas to put together a 15 foot trampoline. No kidding, I was scared if my husband did it, the kids would jump up but not come down. It was the best money I ever spent.
I'll post more pictures as my projects get completed. In the meantime, remember- every man is not handy- but if you're handy- you can find a man. Ha Ha. I just made that up. I'm killing it today!. Gotta get back to the tile.
-Tammy
Till next time.
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